Violence or argument?

Violence is an unequal relationship between the partners.

The partner who attacks

  • Tries consciously or unconsciously to control or dominate the other

The person being attacked

  • Has their self-esteem hurt (feels pathetic, incapable, useless)

Argument is where:

  • The partners express a disagreement in a heated fashion
  • The partners criticize what the other person does, not who they are